How to Actually Have Sex on the Beach, *Safely*
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How to Have Sex on the Beach: “It’s not all sunshine and orgasms”, but maybe it can be? Sex on the beach is one of those things that are most likely on every person’s sex bucket list, mostly because of how commonly it’s referenced in popular culture. I mean, what’s more erotic than having sex under the stars to the sound of waves crashing? I can honestly think of quite a few scenarios, we may just have dedicated another blog post to fantasies! For today, though, let’s focus on the common fantasy of having sex on the beach. Unfortunately, it isn’t always as hot as it may seem in fantasy:
“In your fantasies, you’re making sweet love in the moonlight to the sound of waves crashing against the shore; in reality, you’re dodging roving flashlight beams and picking sand out of places you didn’t know existed.”
Sex on the Beach: The Risk
I, myself, can attest to the annoyance of dodging flashlight beams while trying to sneak a quick one in during beach fireworks- it was honestly kind of hot? For me, part of the fun of having sex on the beach is having to dodge the beach patrol- the risk makes sex even more enticing. The thing that wasn’t all too sexy though, was the beachload of sand I had to rinse out of my behind in the ocean immediately after. When speaking of sex on the beach, Eliza Dumais, a blogger for the maudern gives a description of how it feels to have sex with sand involved:
“Have you ever considered using sandpaper in lieu of a condom? Likely not, because, well, ouch. Let it be known that this is not dissimilar to the sensation that is having sex on a beach.”
Honestly, the ocean isn’t all too inviting when it comes to sex either, as “the sodium naturally dries you out, which means you’ll have a harder time keeping things moist down there (along with all that glorious sand). So bring some lubricant for after your aquatic foreplay.” While the threats of the salt and sand may be enough to deter some of us away from attempting to have sex on the beach, it’s definitely not going to deter all of us- myself included. So, I’ve pulled some of the best positions for sex on the beach, as well as insight from people who have actually had sex on the beach.
Best Positions for Sex on The Beach
The most important thing to remember before you get comfortable is to try to find a secluded area, just to be respectful of others. I found a great article in Stylecaster in which “…sex therapist Marissa Nelson, LMFT, which moves are the best sex positions to try in a sexy beach scenario and how to get the most pleasure out of them given the, er, constraints of the situation.” Below I will list a few of the amazing sex positions she describes, but make sure to check out her article for the rest of the positions and photographic depictions too!
Position Number 1: Teaspoons
“Teaspoons is great for touching each other all over, but you may need to use a couple of towels to cushion those knees,’ says Nelson. ‘For [vagina-owner] couples, the [vagina-owner] on top needs to tilt their body forward and arch their back so their butt is facing up to line up with the strap-on better, or simply to get the most out of their partner fingering their clit.’ *This position works with all gender pairings!”
Position Number 2: Jockey
“This is an ideal position for G-spot stimulation, as the penis or strap-on will hit that area like a bullseye,’ says Nelson. ‘If you’re on the bottom, you can squeeze your legs together for added tightness, which will bring maximum pleasure and a possible blended orgasm.’ *This position works with all gender pairings!”
Position Number 3: Pearly Gates
‘This is a great position to stimulate nipples, touch and finger the receiver, while still maintaining closeness to kiss and caress,’ says Nelson. ‘For [vagina-owner] couples, you can use a strap-on and the lover on the bottom can use it to rub the clitoris of the person on top before sliding it in for penetration,’ says Nelson. *This position works with all gender pairings!”
This next one would have to be my personal favorite:
Position Number 4: Turtle
“This position is one of deep penetration, so in order to control how deep you want the sensation to go, face-down partners can modify by putting your hands on the kneeling partner’s knees to stabilize and rock back and forth,’ says Nelson. ‘Open your legs wider for added depth and pleasure, or you can self-stimulate at the same time. [Vagina-owner] couples can try it with a strap-on—the possibilities are endless.’ *This position works with all gender pairings!”
A user on Reddit felt similarly, noting that “ …doggy-style helped keep sand out of unwanted places. The Redditor called eveningfun noted that ‘If there’s no one around, doggy style works best and can be a lot of fun. It’s a great view for both and keeps things away from the sand. Never got any sand in the wrong place, but I imagine that would be quite uncomfortable.”
How to Have Sex on the Beach: Always be Prepared
Honestly, sex on the beach is just like any other consensual sexual encounter- it might be great, it might be terrible- just make sure you’re prepared with lots of lube. There are endless positions you can try, just as long as you lay a blanket down on the sand first. A Redditor called Wiltsman said that they “had some very outrageous, intense sex with all foreplay and sex itself standing up.” Standing up is definitely another way to avoid the pesky sand altogether.
Overall, I think sex on the beach can be a great experience; you just need to be prepared. Make sure to pack lube, blankets, and have a place in mind to rinse off after. If you’re planning to rinse off in the ocean, like I tend to, do be wary because the salt tends to sting any microabrasions you may have gotten from the sand. Above all else, make sure you feel safe and comfortable on whatever sexcapade you find yourself on.
By: Alyssa Morterud
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