How to Get the Most Out of Your Zoom Sex Therapy Session

Countdown to your Zoom Sex Therapy Session; Let’s keep it digital!

So you’ve found the Sex Therapist for you and you’ve scheduled your first appointment; both are massive steps in the right direction and we couldn’t be more proud of you! But there is still one problem…the global pandemic that is still occurring. While restrictions may be easing in certain areas, for everyone’s safety we here at ReSpark (and many other sex therapy practices) maintain our Zoom protocols. So how do you still get the most out of this if we can’t interact in person? We’ve broken it down into 4 simple steps in order to help you both utilize your time and get the most help out of each and every session.

1. Center: Take the time to gather yourself before and after your session. One of the best pieces of advice we can give is to take the time to make sure that you gather your thoughts and feelings both before and after you begin the session with your sex therapist. This not only important so that you can communicate effectively without worrying about other factors, (work, the kids, deadlines, and appointments, etc.), but so that you can take the time to fully process your emotions afterward. Trying to work from a state of emotional unrest is just the same as trying to wrestle with emotions while your mind is on your latest project; both impractical and a waste of everyone’s time that is involved. By taking the time to run through breathing exercises, eliminate distractions from your immediate thoughts, and think meaningfully both about what is to occur and what has already, you can make sure that everything is in its proper place to help you.
2. Journal: Write down your thoughts in the time off to keep track of progress and any questions. Let’s just face it; we as humans are forgetful creatures and always have been! We can be mid-shower, finishing up a long drive, or even just about to fall asleep when the perfect thought occurs to us. Journaling both helps you sort through your feelings and write down anything you want to work with between yourself and our sex therapist when you see them next.
3. Space: Make the place you are speaking from both comfortable and private. Nothing ruins an emotional breakthrough like a Grande vanilla latte being ordered from the next booth over. Do your best to make sure that you are in a private enough spot to feel comfortable speaking from the heart, but comfortable enough that you safe; sex therapy will push you out of that comfort zone enough, no need to add to it! If you need to leave the house, look into the hours at your local library and ask when the library is least occupied. In addition, most will also have private study rooms that you can “rent out” for free if you ask to be put on the list. Alternatively, if you are stuck in the house, make sure that you are in a place of comfort and are able to close doors. It is also important to silence non-emergency phone calls and remove any and all distractions. Remember, this is YOUR time and YOUR growth, make sure it is valued as such.
4. Remember: This will not always be the case. This pandemic has been more than stressful for the entire world. It is perfectly normal to be anxious, stressed, and to be having trouble with relationships within your life. We are here to not only help you get through this but remind you that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel, and we can reach it together.

Written by: Alena Newland